Monday, April 7, 2014

J.R. Miller on a Wife's Influence Over Her Husband

Again let me say that no wife can over-estimate the influence she wields over her husband, or the measure in which his character, his career and his every destiny are laid in her hands for shaping. The sway which she holds over him is the sway of love, but it is mighty and resistless. If she retains her power, if she holds her place as queen of his life, she can do with him as she will. Even unconsciously to her herself, without any thought of her responsibility, she will exert over him an influence that will go far toward making or marring all his future.
If she is vain and frivolous, she will only chill his ardor, weaken his resolution and draw him aside from any earnest endeavor. But if she has in her soul noble womanly qualities, if she has true thoughts of life, if she has purpose, strength of character and fidelity to principle, she will be to him an unfailing inspiration toward all that is noble, manly and Christ-like. The high conceptions of life in her mind will elevate his conceptions. Her firm, strong purpose will put vigor and determination into every resolve and act of his.
Her purity of soul will cleanse and refine his spirit. Her warm interest in all his affairs and her wise counsel at every point will make him strong for every duty and valiant in every struggle. Her bright, orderly, happy homemaking will be a perpetual source of joy and peace, and an incentive to nobler living. Her unwavering faithfulness, her tender affection, her womanly sympathy, her beauty of soul, will make her to him God’s angel indeed, sheltering, guarding, keeping, guiding and blessing him. Just in the measure in which she realizes this lofty ideal of wifehood will she fulfill her mission and reap the rich harvest of her hopes.
Such is the ‘woman’s lot’ that falls on every wife. It is solemn enough to make her very thoughtful and very earnest. How can she make sure that her influence over her husband will be for good, that he will be a better man, more successful and more happy because she is his wife? Not by any weak resolving to help him and be an uplifting inspiration to him; not by perpetual preaching and lecturing on a husband’s duties and on manly character; she can do it only by being in the very depths of her soul, in every thought and impulse of her heart and in every fiber of her nature, a true and noble woman. She will make him not like what she tells him he ought to be, but like what she herself is.
So it all comes back to a question of character. She can be a good wife only by being a good woman. And she can be a good woman in the true sense only by being a Christian woman. Nowhere save in Christ can she find the wisdom and strength she needs to meet the solemn responsibilities of wifehood. Only in Christ can she find that rich beauty of soul, those gems and pearls of the character, which shall make her lovely in her husband’s sight when the bloom of youth is gone, when the brilliance has faded out of her eyes and the roses have fled from her cheeks. Only Christ can teach her how to live so as to be blessed and a blessing in her married life.

Saturday, February 15, 2014

Sweet Encounters

 Five years ago I met a sweet sweet lady and a few other women through my blog. That year at our annual Homeschool Convention, I met her and a few of the other ladies! We have been friends ever since! And while we only get to see each other once a year, we have a very special connection!

This Summer, we had the pleasure of hosting them in our home for a few hours! And it was so lovely! Like I have shared more times than I can remember, last year was the hardest year of my life! And during this time of hardship, I have learned one thing! The little things in life are the most important! The most amazing! And the most healing!

Our children had actually never met, so it was sweet to see all eleven of them playing together!

Last year I purposed to get back to the way I used to keep record of all the little things in our lives. The simple joys that we so often take for granted! It's not that I ever totally stopped. Rather, I kind of unknowingly, let the passion slip do a level I was not comfortable with. So I wanted to capture pictures of the parents! :) I don't know which was funnier…her husbands many poses…or the fact that I was laughing so hard they all came out a little blurrier than I would have liked :)

And what a beautiful sight to see all of these kids! God is soooo GOOD!

I have purposed to share myself in photos as well. I STILL HAVE MUCH WEIGHT TO LOOSE! But I want to have my family know how much I genuinely love being their momma. And that there was a record of my joy in spending time with them! Not because I look the way I want in pictures. But in spite of that fact, nothing can steal the joy I have for my family! 

Thank you for sharing a small time with our family! We love you dearly! And I pray for you often!!!!!! And while life will sometimes be hard. It will also be full of joy! And I take joy in the sweet moments we have been able to share! :)

Friday, February 14, 2014


We love making things at home! And recently, have gotten back into making that a priority!

This time it was pizza! I remember my first pizza! I used the same recipe as my bread dough! So needless to say our pizza was quite bread-like. :) But I didn't mind. For all I knew, it was the best pizza in the world, because I had made it myself !!!

Our family likes a thinner crust, so over the years, we have been searching for a great recipe!

And I think we finally found it!!!!! Everyone LOVED decorating their pizza!!!!

It was truly the best pizza I have ever made!

(Everyone in line for daddy to cut their pizza)

Wednesday, February 12, 2014


 "Spiritual pride causes us to speak of other people's sins, while humility causes us to be silent about them or to speak of them with grief." The spiritually proud person shows it in finding fault with other saints. "They are low in grace. How cold and dead they are." They are quick to discern and notice their deficiencies. 
We can do that and sound so pious and spiritual. "The people at my church are so cold; they are so dead." Is that a reflection of pride in our hearts? He says, "Christian humility causes a person to take notice of everything that is good in others, to make the best of it, and to diminish their failings. The truly humble Christian has so much to do at home and sees so much evil in his own heart that he's not apt to be very busy with other's hearts." Faultfinding.  -Jonathan Edwards


" [Pride] is . . . the first sin that ever entered into the universe and the last that is rooted out. It is God’s most stubborn enemy!
Pride is much more difficult to be discerned than any other corruption because of its very nature. That is, pride is a person having too high an opinion of himself.  Is it any surprise, then, that a person who has too high an opinion of himself is unaware of it? "
-Jonathan Edwards

Sunday, February 9, 2014

The Bridge Builder

An old man going a lone highway,
Came, at the evening cold and gray,
To a chasm vast and deep and wide.
Through which was flowing a sullen tide
The old man crossed in the twilight dim,
The sullen stream had no fear for him;
But he turned when safe on the other side
And built a bridge to span the tide.

“Old man,” said a fellow pilgrim near,
“You are wasting your strength with building here;
Your journey will end with the ending day,
You never again will pass this way;
You’ve crossed the chasm, deep and wide,
Why build this bridge at evening tide?”

The builder lifted his old gray head;
“Good friend, in the path I have come,” he said,
“There followed after me to-day
A youth whose feet must pass this way.
This chasm that has been as naught to me
To that fair-haired youth may a pitfall be;
He, too, must cross in the twilight dim;
Good friend, I am building this bridge for him!”

Tuesday, February 4, 2014

More Sewing...

We have had some major changes to this new year. And many of those changes have allowed us to get back to the reason why we moved out here.

To be more self sufficient! And part of that means sewing! So thank the Lord, we have been able to do much more of that!

This is a dress I "created" using the bodice of a Marie Madeline dress pattern and then just creating the bottom part and the apron myself. I intend for her to wear a shirt underneath the dress, but this is what it looks like without it. The apron is made from a really soft bed sheet. :) Yes, we are learning resourcefulness around here too :).

The dress below was a test dress I made for my grandmother's funeral. I wanted to make a practice one before I made the real one to make sure I liked it. I LOVE this dress type! And I intend to make more with small floral prints!

This is the actual dress I made the girls for my grandmothers funeral. This is the dress before I put a crocheted lace trim on them.

Isn't it lovely?!?!

And then this was a skirt I made that matched the girls dresses. The kids love this picture and giggle that I am holding the dress with no one in it. :)

Here is a close up of the flowers I made for the skirt.

If I look back last year, or even two years ago…My sewing has become more a part of our normal lives. And for that, I am thankful!

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